There is so much going on out there, and teens are pretty clueless of how they appear to us “adults”. They think they know how they want to be perceived, yet the girls are wearing the shortest tightest skirts, (I can’t imagine how they can even sit down) or the boys have their jeans hanging way down below their belts. For the most part, their communication skills get worse every day as they submerge themselves in their world of text messages, inserting the word “like” into each sentence, and abbreviate everything. They have no idea how to look someone in the eye, shake hands or even speak up with something other than “wassup”.
With budget cuts getting worse every day and class sizes getting bigger, how can we get to these kids
and teach them what they need to know about survival? The teachers can’t do it, they’re stuck with curriculum that must be taught and then tested. The curriculum is old and for the most part outdated. The teachers are underpaid and have no incentive to inspire. The kids are bored and don’t listen and as a result our drop out ratio is higher than ever. This is our future folks – these kids will one day be running our country and making decisions that will affect a lot of us as we enter the later years of our lives. If you think life is scary now – just wait!
I’ve been taught that when you see a challenge, find a solution. So that’s what I’ve done. I’ve created a series of “classes” to teach life skills to teens. I’ve been fortunate, in that I have found a way to relate to teenagers, and they to me. Coaching and mentoring these kids feeds my soul, but more importantly
gives them a new outlook with which to face life. I’m not saying that they’re all a mess, but there are way too many who are. I realize this is pretty brutal, but then truth usually is.
It starts with self esteem. Who are their role models? Who do you think are their role models and why? Is it Kanye and his rap or Lebron James and his focus? Are they listening and doing, or just doing without listening? Are they aware of consequences? Do they care? Do they know what a goal is? If so, do they know how to set and reach it? These are just the first few questions and answers that we dig into when I’m coaching. What makes a teenager tick? How can we motivate them to think and do something positive?
Teenage is a tough time, but we can help them to develop a sense of self and future goals. They can learn to think, act and even accomplish things they never thought about. One of my first students was a 16 year old high school mother with absolutely no self-esteem or thoughts that she could accomplish anything other than just getting through school, and even that would be a first in her family of 14! She grew into a confident, skilled, smart young woman and worked for me personally for 10 years! I’m so proud of her and who she has become, the family she is raising and the life she is enjoying.
If we can work together to produce a better curriculum for life then that’s what we must do. Contact me: Tish@talk2tish.com or Direct 310.867.3334
Let’s work together to create a better life for your kids! I know we can do it!
Gratitude is the common thread that runs through Americans for the next couple of weeks. It should be all year-long! As I observe the blessings of living in Southern California where today it’s 75 degrees and sunny, I began to think about how much gratitude I have for life. As other’s do this week and next, I started to make a mental list of things I appreciate and try not to take for granted. There are simple things such as good health, family, love, and friends. There is a roof over my head, and food in my kitchen. My little dog Laci, rubs up against my leg with affection, knowing that she is unconditionally loved, and loves back the same way.
Love – the emotion that is most expensive, yet most gratifying. I’m so fortunate to have found love with my husband of 36 years. We’ve shared so many journeys. Some wonderful, and other’s painful. Each journey has offered timeless lessons and layers to our life. My husband has cheered me on, comforted me in sorrow, and taken care of me when I was ill. He has supported my activities and several careers throughout the years. We’ve shared some really tough times, and come through as better individuals and a stronger couple. Yes, we’ve used the “sickness and in health” commitment, and the “for better or worse”, too. If I had it to do over, I would do it in a heartbeat!
Family – can extend to anyone you want to include. Some of my closest family are my friends. When I was a little girl, I was told that if you could count your true friends on one hand you were truly blessed. Well, that’s me. I’m so fortunate to have the most wonderful friends. They have offered such loyalty over the years. No matter what, my friends have been there when I needed them, as I am for them. There is a circle of life and what goes around DOES come around. My sister, although living thousands of miles away, is as close as my cell phone. When we’re together, it’s as if we’ve never been apart. If I need her, or vice versa, we’re there for each other. Our children mean the world to us, and we love the appreciation that goes both ways as they are now adults. Our children have given us angst and pride over the years. More lessons! All in all, we’re blessed. Our 3 kids, their spouses and children are tremendous blessings.
Health – We don’t take this for granted. We’ve both had some pretty serious health issues and as a result, don’t take anything for granted here. Gratitude for getting through these challenges and what we’ve learned as a result is a given.
Clients and Business Associates – Here’s an area that most of us don’t really stop to think about. Are we grateful for ALL of our clients and business pals? Do we let them know? I recently received a “thank you note” from a former client, just to stay in touch and let me know that he appreciated our relationship from afar. He now lives and works in Washington State. A simple “thank you” and “gratitude” for the relationship goes a long way. As a professional coach with tools like Face Time and Skype, not only am I grateful for these tools, but for the “connections” that I am able to maintain, nurture and grow.
So, I have a lot to be grateful for, and this is just a small list. Take some quiet time ion the coming days, and just contemplate your blessings. When you sit at your Thanksgiving table, grab hands and say a blessing of gratitude. We all have much to be thankful for.
What are you grateful for this week?
This video was sent to me this morning, and although I’ve seen it numerous times, it seems fitting to share it with you! Everyone can use some motivation. There are moments every day where we all want to just stop and call it quits. I guarantee, spend just a few moments watching this video and see if it changes your perspective! Click the picture below:
With all the discussion and politics regarding education, maybe this will give you all some real insight! This is a must read!!!
Teachers’ hefty salaries are driving up taxes, and they only work 9 or 10 months a year! It’s time we put thing in perspective and pay them for what they do – babysit!
We can get that for minimum wage. That’s right. Let’s give them $3.00 an hour and only the hours they worked; not any of that silly planning time, or any time they spend before or after school. That …would be $19.50 a day (7:45 to……… 3:00 PM with 45 min. off for lunch and plan– that equals 6 1/2 hours). Each parent should pay $19.50 a day for these teachers to baby-sit their children.
Now how many students do they teach in a day…maybe 30? So that’s $19.50 x 30 = $585.00 a day. However, remember they only work 180 days a year!!! I am not going to pay them for any vacations. LET’S SEE…. That’s $585 X 180= $105,300 per year. (Hold on! My calculator needs new batteries).What about those special education teachers and the ones with Master’s degrees? Well, we could pay them minimum wage ($7.75), and just to be fair, round it off to $8.00 an hour. That would be $8 X 6 1/2 hours X 30 children X 180 days = $280,800 per year.
Wait a minute — there’s something wrong here! There sure is!
The average teacher’s salary (nation wide) is $50,000. $50,000/180 days = $277.77/per day/30 students=$9.25/6.5 hours = $1.42 per hour per student–a very inexpensive baby-sitter and they even EDUCATE your kids!) WHAT A DEAL!!!!
Heaven forbid we take into account highly qualified teachers ……
Make a teacher smile; re-post this to show appreciation ♥ all you out there!
Gratitude! I happen to believe that a daily dose of gratitude is necessary to feed the soul. This year’s holiday will be the first time that I will NOT be with family. My kids are spread out from Northern California to Tennessee. My sister is in Georgia. And that’s it! That’s my family. So, I’m very grateful for the relationships and friendships I have built within my community. My good friend, Heidi, immediately reached out and invited us to join her family. We have another good friend who is also an “orphan” and Heidi reached out to her, too! Heidi is an amazing friend and her home is warm, inviting and comfortable. So how fortunate Skip and I are to be celebrating with such wonderful people.
I’m grateful to live in a beautiful, warm city on the West Coast. Today, Nov 21st, the sun is shining on the water, the temperature is holding at 70 degrees, and we’re all healthy!
However, that being said, this is the time of year where every advertisement leads to the commercial “gratitude” of retail madness. Don’t get me wrong, I love shopping as much as anyone, but there has to be a way to just pause it and think about what the true meaning of gratitude might be. Opening the stores on Thanksgiving Night, seems a bit too much to me. How about for every toy we buy for our kids, we purchase one for a child who may not get one. How about while shopping for holiday meals, we purchase, donate one for a family that can’t afford a roof, let alone a meal. How about service at a shelter before you sit down with your loved ones. These are the things that occur to me . I would love to know what you think.
With that being said. I wish everyone a healthy and happy holiday. Please take a few moments and look at your own life and recognize the gratitude all around you!
Although there are a lot of political discussions online, I have not participated. This year’s election is so controversial and I can’t stand all the negative blasting between all the candidates. However, there is one issue I’d like to talk about and hopefully my audience will hear me.
PLEASE VOTE YES ON PROP 30!
Our schools, teachers, and students are suffering their own “recession”. With budget cuts and overloaded classrooms, how can our “future leaders” get the education they deserve. If Prop 30 does not pass, we will have an Educational Hurricane Sandy! We will immediately begin teacher layoffs, the school year will be shortened, class sizes will increase and that’s just the public K-12 schools. Let’s talk about our community colleges. Our own local Santa Monica College has already cancelled their winter sessions. If 30 doesn’t pass they will lose 500 more classes minimum! A ripple down effect will hit local businesses who cater to the school district and college.
Santa Monica has proven that a small increase in sales tax will help the schools. Thanks to Measures Y and YY we have increased financial support to our schools for the past two years through a sales tax increase. Now we have a chance to do it again. The monies will go directly to the schools! It says so right in the bill!
Here is the basic information direct from Sacramento:
What would passing Prop 30 cost?
- It would raise the state’s sales tax by 0.25 percent (one-quarter cent) for three years, and
- It would raise marginal personal income tax rates on filers making over $250,000 (joint filers earning $500,000) by 1 percent to 3 percent for six years.
Where would the money go?
- Of that new revenue, 89 percent would go to K-12 education and 11 percent to California Community Colleges (CCC). Prop. 30 works with Prop. 98 in support of the California state budget.
What exactly is the impact if Prop. 30 passes?
- $500,000 in additional revenue, which translates to 31 class sections (8,460 student seats) more than we served in 2011-12.
What if Prop. 30 fails?
- An automatic cut to our district budget of $4.34 million on Jan. 1, 2013 (after we have already cut more than $8 million since 2008-09).
- The elimination of 8,460 more student seats per year from classes. We would have to cut 251 class sections, plus we would lose the 31 we could add if it passed, multiplied by the average enrollment per section of 30 students. We have already cut 45,060 student seats (1,502 class sections) since 2008-09!
- The elimination of the teachers to teach those classes; most part-time instructors teach more than one section, so at least 141 instructors would not be hired.
- We already have a selective hiring freeze in place, but jobs, wages and benefits would be at risk. Those are negotiable issues, but each would have to be carefully examined.
- Similar cuts will occur at the CSU and UC systems, affecting our students’ ability to transfer on for four-year degrees. California students have the third lowest debt load of college grads across the country because thousands of them get their first two years in at the CCCs, which cost less than any community college in the country.
These are not threats. These trigger cuts are already a matter of law. The current California state budget counts on passing Prop. 30 to avoid $1 billion in cuts to higher education. For California’s 112 community colleges specifically, $548.5 million is at stake.
The students being turned away from our doors are our future nurses, firefighters, doctors and lawyers. They are new high school graduates who would be the first in their family to go to college, as well as laid-off workers who want and need to retrain for the jobs of tomorrow.
Let’s pass Proposition 30!
We all know how difficult those teen years can be. Relationships are difficult enough for adults let alone teens! We all remember what it was like.
Here is a real life story sent to me yesterday. I had to share it with you, and hope that those of you teens and parents who are following my blog share and share. A lot can be learned from Mark’s experience. I have to say, the maturity level displayed by both these kids knocked my socks off! Kudos to these two teens!
I thought I might run something by you and get your thoughts. My 17 year old son came home with a rather interesting story and I’m trying to put some thoughts together on what the best course of action is for him. He was chatting up a girl he is interested in and all was going quite splendidly (even lined up a coffee date) until he decided to pay her a “compliment” by telling her she had “awesome curves”. He’s very studious and normally very shy and reserved, so I don’t know what possessed him to say that. She took offense and told him he was being inappropriate. He tried to repair the damage but only dug himself deeper. The conversation came to an abrupt end when she asked him to remove his glasses (he did so) and then SMACK – she slapped his face and walked off. It took him a minute or two to realize that she didn’t want the glasses to fly across the room So instead of landing a date for the weekend, he was left there standing alone, nursing a sore cheek. My feeling is he should apologize to the young lady and explain that he was just trying to tell her she was beautiful. Do you have any thoughts on this?
Before I could respond to the above, I received this:
Breaking News! He emailed her an apology and she just replied a little while ago. Her response is below. Gotta love happy endings!
Hi Mark and thank you for writing to me. I’ve been thinking things
over. You seemed like such a sweet guy at first, and so smart and
interesting! We were having a wonderful conversation and that’s why I was really disappointed when you started commenting on my body. It felt really weird, creepy, and uncomfortable, especially since we hardly knew each other. There is a time and place for those sorts of comments, and it’s not when you first meet a girl. Furthermore, I like to be appreciated for my brains, not my backside – even if both are rather generous I was confused and angry, and that’s why I slapped you. If you’re not yet aware, we women are very emotional creatures ;)While I make no apologies for that, at least you behaved like a gentleman afterwards and knew that it was proper etiquette to “turn the other cheek” when a female slaps you. You also showed lots of maturity by coming back with a sweet and sincere apology. Most guys would not have done that. So, with all of that said, let’s give this another try…ok?
P.S. Guess you probably figured out that I didn’t want to damage your glasses. No thanks necessary…hehe
This is a very exciting prospect! Let’s teach our kids that there are plenty of alternatives to driving!
Santa Monica, CA – Santa Monica-Malibu Unified School District (SMMUSD) students and staff are getting out their bikes, scooters, skateboards and walking shoes in preparation for Bike It! Walk It! Day on October 3 and 5. Bike It! Walk It! encourages school students and staff to leave the car at home and utilize other modes of transportation, including carpooling and riding the bus. Approximately thirty percent of District students at fourteen different schools participate in the event, avoiding approximately 12,000 car trips.
This year, local officials are invited to join Walking School Buses of students and parents to Lincoln Middle School on October 3 and John Adams Middle School on October 5 to show their support of the Districts Safe Routes to School Program. The two middle schools, along with Roosevelt Elementary and Will Rogers Learning Community, are participating in a Safe Routes pilot program to develop pedestrian and bicycle safety curricula and resources this school year.
Schools celebrating Bike it! Walk it! Day on October 3 include Lincoln Middle School, Roosevelt Elementary School, McKinley Elementary School, John Muir Elementary/Santa Monica Alternative School House (SMASH) and Santa Monica High School. The remaining SMMUSD schools, including Will Rogers Learning Community, Edison Language Academy, Grant Elementary, Franklin Elementary, Juan Cabrillo Elementary, Point Dume Science School, John Adams Middle School, and Malibu High School, will participate on October 5.
Bike It! Walk It! and Safe Routes to School programs involve a partnership between the City of Santa Monica, the District, and the Parent Teacher Association to reduce traffic congestion near schools and promote health, safety, environmental, and community benefits. The Bike It! Walk It! effort supports community engagement through this environmentally friendly program. Please join SMMUSD as we bike, bus, scoot, skate, and walk to school!
Visit www.bikeitwalkit.org for further information, updates, and press links.
Working with High School Teens is the most rewarding thing I do! These kids are actually starved for this kind of information. Most of us don’t have a clue what we want to do once we’ve graduated from High School. Here we had an opportunity to bring in speakers from many different professions to interact with these students.
Police and Fire, Entertainment, Amusement Park, Environmental Opportunities, Accountants, Attorneys, Hospitality, Architecture, Non Profit, City Government, and Real Estate were just a few of the professionals sharing their career advice with students.
The students had lots of questions and really “listened” to what we all had to say! It was very encouraging to hear questions like: “What kind of education do I need for this job?” “What kind of jobs can I get without a college degree?” “What exactly is an entrepreneur and how do know that I would be one?”
All great questions! Lots of different answers! The success of the day was that the questions were asked and the participation was off the charts!