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What are the warning signs of teen relationship abuse?

Tish Tisherman — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 17:26:16 +0000

If you have recognized warning signs of abuse in your relationship, be proud of yourself. You have taken the first step to getting help. So now what? Leaving can be more complicated than it seems, but there are many resources available to help you.

What Do I Need to Know?

If you are in an abusive relationship, you’re probably feeling confusing emotions about what to do. You may fear what your partner will do if you leave, or how your friends and family will react when you tell them about the abuse. You might also think that the police and other adults won’t take you seriously if you report the abuse. These are all understandable reasons to feel nervous about leaving your partner, but staying in the abusive relationship isn’t your only option.

What Can I Do?

Ultimately, none of the above obstacles are worth staying in an abusive relationship, although they can make it feel scary to end it. Whether or not you are ready or able to leave, there are steps you can take to help keep yourself safe:

• Talk to someone (friend, parent, teacher, counselor) that you trust. They can help you deal with your feelings and support you during this time.

• Create a safety plan to reduce your risk of being hurt by your partner. Because you think through it ahead of time, your personalized safety plan can help you avoid dangerous situations and know the best way to react when you are in danger.

• Learn about your legal rights. You may be able to get a restraining order against your partner. Restraining orders may also protect you from harassment from your partner’s friends and family.

• Contact one of the helpful and confidential resources available to assist you if you are concerned about being outed, taken seriously, or affecting your immigration status. We can help connect you to those resources.

Some things to keep in mind when thinking about breaking up:

• Your relationship has probably been a large part of your life. If you feel lonely after the break up, talk to friends or find a new activity to help fill your time.

• Because of the significance of the relationship in your life, it is normal to miss your partner after the break-up. Don’t let yourself forget that you’re leaving for important reasons.

• Breaking up with an abusive partner can be a dangerous time. If you don’t feel safe, break up with your partner over the phone or with a friend waiting nearby. Let your family and friends know you’re planning on breaking up so they can support you and help keep you safe during this time. And if you are ever in immediate danger, call the police.

For information about support groups on this issue contact tish@talk2tish.com

TALK2TISH IS PLEASED TO PARTNER WITH LIFETIME TELEVISION TO PRESENT THE FAIRY JOBMOTHER CAREER KICKSTART BOOT CAMP

Tish Tisherman — Wed, 20 Oct 2010 21:09:40 +0000

One-Day Event on Saturday, October 23^rd, to Attract Hundreds
of Job-Seekers to the new Santa Monica Place Mall

Talk2Tish with Special Role in Interactive Booths

LOS ANGELES, CA (October 23, 2010) - Talk2Tish is pleased to join with Lifetime Television in presenting The Fairy Jobmother Career Kick start Boot Camp, a one-day event on Saturday, October 23^rd, at Santa Monica Place Mall from 12-4pm, to promote the launch of the new unscripted series The Fairy Jobmother. Premiering Thursday, October 28^th, at 11pm ET/PT, after the Project Runway season eight finale on Lifetime, The Fairy Jobmother will follow international career specialist Hayley Taylor each week as she assists job-challenged families with her no-nonsense and tough love tactics to motivate them to get back on the payroll. Recognized for her no holds barred approach, Taylor will help and inspire those who have struggled with unemployment to realize new career opportunities.

In anticipation of the series, the plaza at Santa Monica Place will transform into a community platform set to entertain, engage and inform consumers of the job interview process from start to finish, as well as to provide general career advice in a fun and interactive way. Admission is free and open to the public.

Talk2Tish is pleased to be involved in this community event and anticipates incredible interaction with the public. A schedule of events includes the following:

Main Stage – with keynote speakers, including Hayley Taylor, The Fairy Jobmother, as well as panel discussions and audience interaction
Interactive Booths – with specific emphasis on Resumé do’s and don’ts, social media networking, job hunting advice and interviewing skills
Job Fair – Opportunity to interview with a Lifetime recruiter on-site at the event, along with additional area companies offering key advice on the application and interview process, as well as best practices for being considered as an employee
Resumé drop box
Raffle prizes and other surprises for all in attendance!

To kick start your career or for additional information, go to myLifetime.com/bootcamp.

ABOUT Talk2Tish

Linda “Tish” Tisherman is vibrant and passionate. Tish has been a professional in the world of staffing for over 25 years. She’s constantly evolving with new thoughts, new processes, new ways of communication, all of which benefit “her clients”, while, at the same time, guiding Tish towards both personal and professional development to live her life at an amazing level of gratitude and joy! Tish is a frequent guest speaker at community organizations, local high schools and colleges such as Santa Monica College, USC Marshall and USC Annenberg.

Everyone wants control over their own lives. They want to pursue their dreams, whatever they may be. They want to hear that it is possible – even in today’s climate. Tish’s students learn what truly IS possible when they are coachable, committed, want to develop conviction, persistence and a mindset that failure is not an option.!

With that, we make dreams and visions a reality! Contact Tish at 310.867.3334 or tish@talk2tish.com Visit our website http://talk2tish.com

Tips for Parents….

Tish Tisherman — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 21:24:08 +0000

Abuse comes in many forms – physical, sexual and verbal/emotional. Do research before talking to your teen so you can provide correct and helpful information. Admit if you don’t know the answer to a question – It will build trust

It is never too early to talk to your teen about healthy relationships. Even if you don’t think your teen is dating, having these conversations is one of the most important steps you can take to help prevent dating abuse.

Talk to your teen about what type of information they are sharing online. Ask them to make their profile “private” so only approved people can see it.

Let your teen know that even if they have done something with someone many times before, they always have the right to say NO. It is never okay for their partner to threaten them or make them feel guilty.

Be supportive and understanding. Stress that you are on their side. Provide non-judgmental support so that they know they can come to you for help if their relationship becomes unhealthy.

With so many avenues for communications available at a teenager’s fingertips, it’s important to remind teens that boundaries are perfectly acceptable. A relationship cannot be built on trust or respect if someone’s partner is watching their every move and constantly checking up on them.

Bullying… Let’s do something about it.

Tish Tisherman — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 17:12:46 +0000

The recent violence and increase in bullying has most of us outraged. Safety for our kids has to be our number one priority. It shouldn’t matter who is being bullied. It’s got to stop! This is just a first step.

Last week, a freshman at Rutgers University killed himself after his roommate secretly recorded him with another male student, then broadcast the video online. It’s just one of a number of teen suicides in recent weeks following cruel anti-gay bullying and harassment at school. Some of the kids were as young as 13.

Human Rights Campaign is calling on the Secretary of Education to keep students safe by adding sexual orientation and gender identity to school anti-bullying programs across the country. I just added my name to their letter — will you join me?

http://bit.ly/9Uc0eH

Our Journey

Tish Tisherman — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 20:14:02 +0000

Our journey of life is about progress, not perfection. It’s not about doing one thing 100% better – it’s a matter of doing 100 things, 1% better each day. Progress is evolutionary not revolutionary, and most days we measure our progress in inches, not miles. What matters most is showing up for your life whether you feel like it or not. Ask yourself, “What two or three little things can I do today that would move me forward?” You’ll be amazed at how much distance you can cover by taking it in increments. The little things add up; the inches turn to miles; and we string together our efforts like so many pearls. Before long, look what you have – a whole strand!

Who Wins?

Tish Tisherman — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 22:59:08 +0000

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

The Heart of our Teachers!

Tish Tisherman — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 17:03:08 +0000

I am constantly amazed by our teachers. Our childrens lives are affected each and every day by these fabulous individuals who are dedicated to their lives and futures. Stop and take just a few moments to watch this video and remind ourselves of what happens after the bell rings!

The Heart of a Teacher

Success –

Tish Tisherman — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 16:45:26 +0000

I love this quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson.

“To laugh often and much

To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children

To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends

To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others

To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition

To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.

This is to have succeeded”

A true story…..

Tish Tisherman — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 23:37:07 +0000

I happen to be a big fan of music. Most any kind of music. Music can soothe the soul and energize the spirit. The following story is about someone I’ve come to admire and listen to quite often. This is an example of mindset: How aware are we of life and all it has to offer….. are we always so busy we don’t have time to stop and smell the roses?

The scene: Washington D.C. Metro Station on a cold January morning. He played six Bach pieces for about an hour. During that time, approximately two thousand (2,000) people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.

After 3 minutes, a middle-aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried to meet his schedule.

4 minutes: the violinist received his first dollar. A woman threw the money in the till and, without stopping, continued to walk.

6 minutes: a young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

10 minutes: a 3-year-old boy stopped but his mother tugged him along hurriedly, as the kid looked at the violinist. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time.

Several other children repeated this action.

Every parent, without exception, forced them to move on.

45 minutes: the musician continues to play. Only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while.

About 20 gave him money but continued to walk their normal pace.

He collected $32.

After 1 hour, the musician finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed, no one applauded, nor was there any recognition.

No one knew this but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars.

Two days before Joshua Bell sold out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100.

This is a real story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people’s priorities.

The questions rose:

In a commonplace environment, at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments… how many other things are we missing?

A Bit of Inspiration -

Tish Tisherman — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 23:29:19 +0000

I saw this video and it reminds me that anything is possible! Let me share with you this heartwarming story of a young man’s dream and the mindset he developed to make it come true.