Talk2Tish » self esteem

Tips for Parents….

Tish Tisherman — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 21:24:08 +0000

Abuse comes in many forms – physical, sexual and verbal/emotional. Do research before talking to your teen so you can provide correct and helpful information. Admit if you don’t know the answer to a question – It will build trust

It is never too early to talk to your teen about healthy relationships. Even if you don’t think your teen is dating, having these conversations is one of the most important steps you can take to help prevent dating abuse.

Talk to your teen about what type of information they are sharing online. Ask them to make their profile “private” so only approved people can see it.

Let your teen know that even if they have done something with someone many times before, they always have the right to say NO. It is never okay for their partner to threaten them or make them feel guilty.

Be supportive and understanding. Stress that you are on their side. Provide non-judgmental support so that they know they can come to you for help if their relationship becomes unhealthy.

With so many avenues for communications available at a teenager’s fingertips, it’s important to remind teens that boundaries are perfectly acceptable. A relationship cannot be built on trust or respect if someone’s partner is watching their every move and constantly checking up on them.

Bullying… Let’s do something about it.

Tish Tisherman — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 17:12:46 +0000

The recent violence and increase in bullying has most of us outraged. Safety for our kids has to be our number one priority. It shouldn’t matter who is being bullied. It’s got to stop! This is just a first step.

Last week, a freshman at Rutgers University killed himself after his roommate secretly recorded him with another male student, then broadcast the video online. It’s just one of a number of teen suicides in recent weeks following cruel anti-gay bullying and harassment at school. Some of the kids were as young as 13.

Human Rights Campaign is calling on the Secretary of Education to keep students safe by adding sexual orientation and gender identity to school anti-bullying programs across the country. I just added my name to their letter — will you join me?

http://bit.ly/9Uc0eH

Determination and Leadership – What a combo

Tish Tisherman — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 17:58:00 +0000

I found this amazing video and was so impressed with this coach and what he accomplished with his team! Words don’t begin to describe what you’ll see and feel watching this video! I promise – you’ll be glad you watched!

The Million Dollar Challenge

All comments welcome!

A Bit of Inspiration -

Tish Tisherman — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 23:29:19 +0000

I saw this video and it reminds me that anything is possible! Let me share with you this heartwarming story of a young man’s dream and the mindset he developed to make it come true.

“How will our teens function in the “Real World”?

Skip — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 00:07:14 +0000

There is so much going on out there, and teens are pretty clueless of how they appear to us “adults”. Teenagers think they know how they want to be perceived, yet the girls are wearing the shortest tightest skirts, (I can’t imagine how they can even sit down) or the boys have their jeans hanging way down below their waists. For the most part, teens’ communications skills get worse every day as they submerge themselves in their world of text messages and abbreviate everything. They have no idea how to look someone in the eye, shake hands or even speak up with something other than “wassup”.

With budget cuts getting worse every day and class sizes getting bigger, how can we get to these kids and teach them what they need to know about survival? The teachers can’t do it, they’re stuck with curriculum that must be taught and then tested. The curriculum is old and for the most part outdated. The teachers are underpaid and have no incentive to inspire. The kids are bored and don’t listen and as a result our drop out ratio is higher than ever. This is our future folks – these kids will one day be running our country and making decisions that will affect a lot of us as we enter the later years of our lives. If you think life is scary now – just wait!

I’ve been taught that when you see a challenge, find a solution. So that’s what I’ve done. I’ve created a series of “classes” to teach life skills to teens. I’ve been fortunate, in that I have found a way to relate to teenagers, and they to me. Coaching and mentoring these kids feeds my soul, but more importantly gives them a new outlook with which to face life. I’m not saying that they’re all a mess, but there are way too many who are. I realize this is pretty brutal, but then, the truth usually is.

It starts with self esteem. Who are their role models? Who do you think are their role models and why? Is it Eminem and his rap or Tiger Woods and his focus? Are they listening and doing, or just doing without listening? Are they aware of consequences? Do they care? Do they know what a goal is? If so, do they know how to set and reach it? These are just the first few questions and answers that we dig into when I’m coaching. What makes a teenager tick? How can we motivate them to think and do something positive?

Teenage is a tough time, but we can help them to develop a sense of self and future goals. They can learn to think, act and even accomplish things they never thought about. One of my first students was a 16 year old high school mother with absolutely no self esteem or thoughts that she could accomplish anything other than just getting through school, and even that would be a first in her family of 14! She grew into a confident, skilled, smart young woman and worked for me personally for 10 years! I’m so proud of her and who she has become, the family she is raising and the life she is enjoying.

If we can work together to produce a better curriculum for life then that’s what we must do.

Contact me: Tish@talk2tish.com or Direct 310.822.1978

Let’s work together to create a better life for your kids! I know we can do it!