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Determination and Leadership – What a combo

Tish Tisherman — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 17:58:00 +0000

I found this amazing video and was so impressed with this coach and what he accomplished with his team! Words don’t begin to describe what you’ll see and feel watching this video! I promise – you’ll be glad you watched!

The Million Dollar Challenge

All comments welcome!

Honor our Teachers!

Tish Tisherman — Wed, 05 May 2010 16:10:09 +0000

Aside from parents, who makes the biggest impact on our children? Their teachers! Bless these men and women who dedicate themselves to the growth and development of tomorrow’s future leaders. Take a few minutes and view this video. Then do something special to acknowledge those amazing men and women!

http://www.heartofateachermovie.com/?cm_mmc=Responsys-_-MO-_-4.26.10-_-HOATmovie

Inspiration is only the beginning!

Tish Tisherman — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 17:14:00 +0000

Thought for the week – 12/7/09

Tish Tisherman — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 23:52:58 +0000

Find an image of something that you really love: flowers, a rainbow, a special song, a sport that you love.

Let that be the image that you use every time you start to scare yourself!

Thought for the week 11/23/09

Tish Tisherman — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 19:19:33 +0000

The Power to Judge: Our choices decide the very quality of our lives. To make the right choices we need the Power to Judge.

So, you want to communicate with your teenager?

Tish Tisherman — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:42:07 +0000

Are you a lucky parent raising a teenager in today’s world? Pretty scary! We all want our kids to like us. We know they love us, but liking us is another thing entirely. We want communication open and flowing – how do we make this happen?

Does this sound familiar?

You: “How was school?”

Teen: “Fine.”

You: “What did you do today?”

Teen: “Nothing.”

When was the last time you spent some one on one time with your teen? How can you have a good relationship with your teenager? Nothing takes the place of getting involved and interested in your teen’s life. We often think of quality time for very young children, but this term still applies when they are teenagers. We forget about it because they’ve seemingly reached that age of “not wanting to be seen with us.”

It’s really the quality of time, not the quantity. It may take a bit of work to figure out the best way to do this, but trust me, it’s worth it! What do you think they might say if you asked them to teach YOU something that they’re good at? Ask them to teach you the “quirks” of texting so that you can communicate with them on their terms. Ask them what they like best about what they’re studying and YOU study up on that subject so that you have another commonality. Take walks, hike, bike, attend art, music or dance classes, etc. Make sure it’s their choice of activity. Don’t go to the movies unless you both commit to 15-30 minutes of discussion of the movie once it’s over. The object of this exercise is to communicate, not be entertained.

Do you really Listen to them?

Always pay really close attention to what your teens are saying to you. Look them straight in the eyes and let them know you care about what they are saying! When they realize you’re really interested, they typically will let go and really talk to you. You’ve got to be prepared to stop what you’re doing and listen if they want to talk. They want to share something with you! How cool is that? Isn’t this what we’re striving for?

Everyone has ridiculous schedules in today’s world. Finding family time can also be difficult, but to keep communication open, you have to make the time. Meals are a terrific place to start. Try to have at least one if not more sit-down family meals per week. Find a common topic for conversation, and let the family know ahead of time so that everyone can find a tidbit or two to add to the conversation.

Now here’s the glitch – even if you don’t agree with their opinions, find a way to listen, really listen to theirs. This can be a difficult task, as it can be hard to really listen when all you want to do is tell them your opinion about something with which you don’t agree. Whatever you do – Don’t judge them! It may be best to admit there is a disagreement and postpone the discussion until you can calm down and be rational. Then you can go back and say something like, “I’m not sure I agree with all you said, and there are some things I don’t understand. Let me think about this and we’ll pick it up tomorrow night at dinner.” By setting a deadline for the conversation, you are acknowledging the importance of their opinion to you, and they will come back to finish up. Isn’t communication the goal?

A Bit of Inspiration -

Tish Tisherman — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 23:29:19 +0000

I saw this video and it reminds me that anything is possible! Let me share with you this heartwarming story of a young man’s dream and the mindset he developed to make it come true.

“How will our teens function in the “Real World”?

Skip — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 00:07:14 +0000

There is so much going on out there, and teens are pretty clueless of how they appear to us “adults”. Teenagers think they know how they want to be perceived, yet the girls are wearing the shortest tightest skirts, (I can’t imagine how they can even sit down) or the boys have their jeans hanging way down below their waists. For the most part, teens’ communications skills get worse every day as they submerge themselves in their world of text messages and abbreviate everything. They have no idea how to look someone in the eye, shake hands or even speak up with something other than “wassup”.

With budget cuts getting worse every day and class sizes getting bigger, how can we get to these kids and teach them what they need to know about survival? The teachers can’t do it, they’re stuck with curriculum that must be taught and then tested. The curriculum is old and for the most part outdated. The teachers are underpaid and have no incentive to inspire. The kids are bored and don’t listen and as a result our drop out ratio is higher than ever. This is our future folks – these kids will one day be running our country and making decisions that will affect a lot of us as we enter the later years of our lives. If you think life is scary now – just wait!

I’ve been taught that when you see a challenge, find a solution. So that’s what I’ve done. I’ve created a series of “classes” to teach life skills to teens. I’ve been fortunate, in that I have found a way to relate to teenagers, and they to me. Coaching and mentoring these kids feeds my soul, but more importantly gives them a new outlook with which to face life. I’m not saying that they’re all a mess, but there are way too many who are. I realize this is pretty brutal, but then, the truth usually is.

It starts with self esteem. Who are their role models? Who do you think are their role models and why? Is it Eminem and his rap or Tiger Woods and his focus? Are they listening and doing, or just doing without listening? Are they aware of consequences? Do they care? Do they know what a goal is? If so, do they know how to set and reach it? These are just the first few questions and answers that we dig into when I’m coaching. What makes a teenager tick? How can we motivate them to think and do something positive?

Teenage is a tough time, but we can help them to develop a sense of self and future goals. They can learn to think, act and even accomplish things they never thought about. One of my first students was a 16 year old high school mother with absolutely no self esteem or thoughts that she could accomplish anything other than just getting through school, and even that would be a first in her family of 14! She grew into a confident, skilled, smart young woman and worked for me personally for 10 years! I’m so proud of her and who she has become, the family she is raising and the life she is enjoying.

If we can work together to produce a better curriculum for life then that’s what we must do.

Contact me: Tish@talk2tish.com or Direct 310.822.1978

Let’s work together to create a better life for your kids! I know we can do it!